I was just reading Liz's Ponderation post on her blog :http://dididigress.blogspot.com/ and had some comments about fear standing in the way.
I wonder sometimes if someone told us "you can't...[fill in the blank] because you're [too little, a girl, too fat, etc.]" and that has affected us all these years. I guess I need to find a new LA therapist and add this to my list of things to talk about.
I was also thinking that I wonder if I've ever been the one to say those things to someone else. I still remember when I was probably in 4th or 5th grade and I took baton twirling lessons. Yes I did! My mom did it when she was younger, and it seemed so glamorous, so I took lessons. Even marched in a parade once twirling my little baton. I bet a lot of you didn't know that!
Anyway, I remember that there was a group of younger girls (my age) and some older girls that were in Junior High who obviously did some more complicated twirls and tricks. Then I remember one of the little girls in my age group watching the older girls and started trying to do one of their tricks. And being Little Miss Rule Follower, I said "you can't do that...that's only for the older girls". And she stopped. At least she was trying. Why did I do that? Was I jealous because either I had tried it and couldn't do it...or maybe jealous that I was too afraid to try and she wasn't? I hope that my saying that didn't scar her for life.
This is my deepest post, so sorry if it's not funny. Thanks for making us think Liz!
2 comments:
I never really thought about other's influence in my fear. It's something I'm going to have to think about.
Very interesting, Laura.
I feel like now that I've officially met you, it's ok to add you to my list of friends...and comment on your blog...
It's interesting to see how things that happened so early in our childhood affect us. In one of my classes this week we were talking about how people say/do things (often unknowingly) that make us who we are. The example was with art: everyone can color/paint--especially if there are some smudges or spills that are worth thousands of dollars! But a lot of people dont think they can do it because they didnt receive positive reinforcement as a child. ...but I'll have to think more about how it relates to fear...I have lots of stupid irrational fears that I can trace back to stories people told me as a kid.
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